I have loads of experience feeling abandonment trauma. The terror of being left is fresh and available pretty much anytime. Rejection fits in there nicely with the hypervigilance needed to ensure that I won’t be left. Did she just roll her eyes? Did he turn away because of what I said? Is she not calling […]
From Under the Covers
I’ve always been a prolific artist. I starvingly devoured any mediums I could find- acrylics, collage, musical instruments, spoken words, clay, photography, drawing, and always, always the dance. Then I gave birth to a baby girl and things…changed. Sort of. During her second and third years, I performed my one-woman show called “Don’t Be A […]
Peer Counseling: A Counterculture Healing Process
“Gina” a client of mine, was a really lovely, likable human being but she found herself alone and isolated much of the time. She worked hard on her own issues but found connection mysteriously out of reach in terms of solid, stable groups of friends and community. At the same time, she has fears and […]
The Cuteness of Being, a short video
What I Did With My Toddler Today
Today I set an hour and a half to just focus on T., my 2 year old. Turned off phones, closed computer, no texts, no distractions at all for that time period. I gave myself the task of FOLLOWING HER LEAD on everything and not asking her to follow mine AT ALL. Usually it’s a […]
The Scattered Parent Syndrome
Read this if you’re not too busy (it’s urgent) I have something I need to do. Over there. By my computer or in the kitchen. It’s very important. In fact, if I don’t get to it, we’ll all die. And my grasp on reality and the survival of the species will self-destruct within seconds […]
Parenting and Engulfment
I finally got some time to myself. Her naps are hitting right when I’m on a break from work so suddenly I have time to nap myself, pay bills, answer emails, and even go for a walk now and then (if my husband is around). And guess what? I still feel TOTALLY ENGULFED by parenthood […]